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The Imaginary And Self Destructive Types Of Relationships

By Aaron Adams

There are two types of relationships that many women today find themselves in, but arent really aware that its a one-way ticket to heartbreak and disappointment. Take a look at these two bad types of relationships and see whether your own relationship falls under either of them and know what to do about it if it is.

The Imaginary Relationship

Have you ever experienced thoughts that your relationship with a man can only be ideal if:

he gets beyond his qualms and uncertainties of his commitment to you?

he eventually accepts his emotions for you?

he just left his spouse or girlfriend?

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he wasnt so far away?

hed just take the time and discuss his wants and his feelings to you openly?

If any of these are true, then the likelihood is youre in an imaginary relationship. This kind of relationship is full of gaps in the guys presence in your relationship. These so called gaps are filled with your daydreams and fantasies. Regarding how the man thinks and how he feels for you.

Fact: a number of men dont really consider the important things. Things like your long-term relationship. Women on the other hand think about this vividly. Do not get mad. Its just not part of some mens emotional psyche. Such guys are referred to as resistant men. These men feel more macho and manly when they have an escape plan in a relationship.

If youre certain that the guy youre dating fits this type then be kind to yourself and cease everything. Instead, find someone who can help you figure out the questions listed above.

The Self-Destructive Relationship

Finally, theres the self-destructive relationship. This is the relationship wherein you are with somebody that isnt right for you. Actually, he might even be violent, disinterested or two-timing. However, even if you know this, you still cant seem to leave him.

It is probably because you seem to have a mysterious attraction towards jerks. Perhaps you are more afraid of being alone than being in this type of relationship. Whichever way, you are most likely dependent on your partner. You cant seem to be able to live without a man beside you. You think that a man is the answer to your problems or he can give you the answer to your problem.

If thats how you think, then you might be in a futile wait. You must first accept that you are probably the source of the predicament. No solution will present itself on your lap.

You must have a set of core values and beliefs. These beliefs and values should guide you in your life. Your sentiments are merely in a condition thats opposite to these values and beliefs. This in turn attracts the wrong kinds of men to you. You have to fix your emotional state. Prioritize the more important things in life.

The key is to have your identity in position. Do not be ashamed of showing it. In this way you can have better judgment and in return be able to attract the right kind of man.

About the Author: Aaron Adams specializes in relationship matters for women. Visit

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Certified Diamonds Gia, Egl, Ags, Which Diamond Grading Lab Is Best?

By Andy Moquin

There are lots of opinions in the jewelry industry about which grading lab is best when choosing a diamond. The trouble with these opinions is that they’re usually jaded because the person/business giving you the opinion wants to sell you their diamond. Their opinion on which grading lab is best is decided by what lab has graded their diamond, how convenient is that?! If they own a diamond certified by EGL then they tell you that EGL is best, if they have another diamond owned by GIA then GIA is best. These are biased opinions and you should be very cautious as to how much weight is given to them during your decision making process.

How are diamonds certified?

The ‘Big Three’ grading laboratories as I like to call them have similar processes for certifying diamonds. This process involves several Graduate Gemologists independently assessing and agreeing on the color, clarity, and carat weight of the diamond. This helps reduce the possibility for human error when determining the final grade for the diamond, although it doesn’t eliminate it. You must consider the indisputable fact that there is no exact science behind diamond grading. I know the grading systems sound official and science like but they’re really aren’t. Ponder this statement for a moment, ‘No two diamonds are exactly alike.’ With that being said, how could two different diamonds which are not exactly alike be graded exactly alike? In reality they can’t be.

The other important fact is that the final quality grades are decisions or opinions not scientific calculations. So if they are opinions and every diamond is graded by different labs and different graders then how could there be any consistency? Truth be known, grading labs have a tough time with that, regardless of which lab you talking about. Let’s say for example, that you send a diamond to GIA for certification and it comes back carat weight – .50ct, clarity-SI2, Color-H. Then, you throw away the certification and send the diamond back for a second grading as if it were never graded before. The chance of it coming back SI2, H again is probably 80% and 20% that it’ll come back different. So the grading and certification process is somewhat flawed to begin with. If you can’t get one grading lab to consistently agree with its own grades, how could you expect other labs to agree with another? Again, there’s no easy answer to that question and as an industry we still don’t have it figured out.

From a consumer standpoint the best approach to buying a diamond is to use your best judgment. Read the grading report from whatever lab certified the diamond and examine both the diamond and the certification. Use the certification as a rule of thumb or a starting point, don’t use it as the end all be all. Learn how the grading system works and then compare diamonds side by side under the microscope and decide for yourself which diamond looks better. If you would like more information on how a diamond is graded you can visit


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GIA – Gemological Institute of America

EGL – European Gemological Laboratory

AGS – American Gem Society

Recently, GIA seems to have the best reputation for grading diamonds accurately. I challenge this because I’ve seen and compared many diamonds from all three labs and witnessed inaccuracies in GIA grades as often as EGL and AGS. I believe that GIA, EGL, and AGS are the three best solutions for purchasing diamonds however, I don’t feel one is better than the other. One interesting fact is that you’ll pay 15% more (on average) for a diamond certified by GIA because their reputation appears better than other labs. The problem with that is that EGL and AGS are perfectly capable of grading a diamond as accurately as GIA, and usually do. So if that is the case, then why would pay more for a GIA certified diamond that has the same grade as an EGL or AGS diamond? The answer is that you shouldn’t! One of the best deals in the jewelry industry is a diamond certified by EGL; this is because some jewelers assume that EGL isn’t graded as conservatively as a GIA. In the end many jewelers price an EGL certified diamond at less than GIA or AGS stones. This I believe is a mistake because in my experience the grading for all three labs is similar. For a consumer though, purchasing an EGL certified diamond is an excellent opportunity to buy a well graded diamond for much less than you have to.

AGS has become very notable for their knowledge about cut and grading a diamond for its potential light performance. Most of what the jewelry industry uses to determine if a diamond is optimized for brilliance is based on AGS’s research. If a jeweler suspects that a diamond is cut very well then he may send the diamond to AGS for certification. If you are looking for a diamond with a very high cut grade you should consider looking at diamonds that have been certified by AGS.

Final recommendations

Get more involved in the diamond buying process and understand how the 4C’s work, not just what it stands for. Ask to use a jeweler’s loupe (eye piece) or a microscope to see the diamond under magnification. When looking at the diamond under magnification examine the inclusions for each grade you’re considering then compare them side by side to determine if one looks better than the other. For example, let’s say you are looking at two SI1 diamonds – one is a certified by EGL and the other GIA. After comparing them, you decide that the diamonds look similar but the EGL diamond is 15% less in price. Who cares what lab certified them! Just because some jewelers think that GIA is a better grading lab doesn’t make the diamond certified by GIA better. The grading labs don’t make the diamonds, they simply grade them, a diamond isn’t made better by its certification. A certification is just a piece of paper; you can’t put a piece of paper in a ring and propose. If one diamond looks better than another it probably is, regardless of the grade or what lab assigned it. So in this case the logical choice is to get the better looking diamond, forget about what lab is better and save your money.

Don’t exclude comparing the color. The best way to do this is to ask to see loose un-set diamonds and then compare them side by side. Take a white piece of paper and place the diamonds upside down and next to one another on the paper. The white background adds contrast to the diamond’s color and helps you distinguish the color differences between them. After making a decision on your own about the amount of color a diamond has then refer to the certification to see what the grade is. Again, it doesn’t matter who graded the diamond or what the grade is. In the end you need to see it with your very own eyes and trust your instincts about which diamond is right for you.

Diamond certification is certainly important to have and I don’t think you should purchase a quality diamond without one. I do believe though, that a healthy decision is one that involves you referring to the certification, comparing diamonds side by side, and using your head. Let’s not forget the value of working with a reputable jeweler as well. A good jeweler lends his/her expertise and provides an unbiased opinion about each diamond’s characteristics. The final decision about a diamond and whether it’s right for you – should be made by you. Not a grading lab!

Andy Moquin


Andrews Jewelers Inc.


About the Author: Andy Moquin has spent 20 years in the jewelry business buying and selling over $20,000,000 in diamonds, engagement rings and custom designed jewelry. He as traveled to Belgium and Israel to work with international diamond dealers and works as an advisor for DBC Diamonds an international consortium of diamond dealers. His experience in the jewelry business has become invaluable to consumers and business owners. He can be contacted at 716-630-7091,,



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